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Happy International Self Care Day

I am surrounded by special angels…some are near, and some are far. Some I have known for months, and some for many years. This delightful angel, I have known for 20+ years. Lacy is a rock star mama, business women now living in Western OZ. Her husband, Gordon and babies Hamish and Ruby - circle her with love and light.

Lacy’s give back to us - is her grounding presence, and wisdom.

When she was 16, younger than me at the time… I asked her for advice, and relied on her truth as guidance. Her mediation practice is that of a working mama of two littles…

Anything is possible. No judgment, no pressure.

Just the question.

How do you give to others? Do you give from your own reserve. What is your recharge?

💓Happy International Self Care Day💓 

Love, Lacy Gow

My favourite daily method of self care is meditation given I am a former ‘action obsessed’ addict ✅ turned loving living present mama🧘‍♀️ 

Here are my top tips for starting a consistent practice: 

➕Commit: on average it takes 66 days to create a habit so choose a schedule you can stick with even if it is 10 minutes a day for 5 days a week. I commit to 40+ minutes, 5 days a week. 

➕Get comfy: find a position you can be in comfortably for the entire duration. I like lying in my bed with my heated blanket on but some people like kneeling, sitting cross legged, in a chair - whatever feels good for your body.  

➕Focus on your breathing: I do a deep breath in for a count of 7 trying to expand my rib cage and push the air to the back of my lungs and then a deep breath out for another count of 7 trying to get all that air out from deep within contracting my rib cage. You may find a count of 7 a bit of a struggle at first, so find a count that feels comfortable and sustainable. 

I focus on breathing in white healing energy through the chakra at the crown of my head and breathing out energy which no longer serves me through my throat chakra into an imaginary blue flame.  Some people just count, focus on words like breath in love, breath out peace. Experiment and find what feels comfortable. 

➕Silence v Noise: I sit in silence (or white noise if I have the baby monitor on) but some people enjoy listening to something (especially if you can’t find a quiet space). You can download Spotify for free and experiment with guided meditations/affirmations (I like Jess Shepherd), abundance music (I like Steve Halpern) or motivational speeches (I like fearless soul). Again, experiment to find what feels good. 

➕Light v Dark: I like a naturally light room with the sun shining through as it helps with my visualisation of the healing light and makes me happy, but you may enjoy a dim or dark room. Some people even put an eye pillow over their eyes - again, I recommend experimenting until you find what feels best for you. 

Then set your timer, get comfy, start your breathing and noise (if applicable). 

Connect your pointer finger to thumb on your hands during the practice and when breathing in, keep your mouth closed and tongue on the roof of your mouth. When you breath out, open your mouth. I like to breath like I’m steaming a window. 

As your thoughts start running away with you (as they do for everyone, all the time!) and you catch yourself off on a tangent, bring yourself (non-judgmentally) back to your breath. 

Some days I find focusing easy and refreshing; other days it is a huge challenge and full on. Remember, this is an opportunity to bring us to the present and may not feel that relaxing some days! It is hard but extremely rewarding work❤️

About me: I am a life loving mama on a mission to bring more happiness and love into this world. I have two little people, Hamish (2y 9mo) and Ruby (9 mo), a fur baby Zeus and my partner in crime, Gordon. If your interested in learning more about my self care journey or just see what we are up to living on the other side of the globe in Perth, Australia, follow me on Instagram @lacykategow. Sending my love to you all and good luck with your meditation journey 💓

Summer is so close, I can taste the candy.

The last week of school is upon us... 

Its bittersweet for some of us, scary as hell for some of us, and exciting for some of us.

I love no schedule, in theory.... I'm super busy running camps of my own this summer, so I have to schedule in the "No Schedule" 

Every Summer we do a "Summer Fun List" with my kids...

1. a whole day watching TV

-that's the only thing on the list so far. 

Am I screwed? Right now, I think I am - because they told me - they just want to watch TV and eat candy... ALL DAY. 

I'm nervous for the moment when they say "I'm bored, I want candy."

Why always candy??? Is it because I have scared them of rotting teeth and sugar, and they're teasing me? probably.... 

 

Full disclosure... I'm excited for the Summer!

I like having my kids around so much.  As much as I am "OUT AND ABOUT," I prefer to be home with my babies.  They're hilarious and adorable 90% of the time, so selfishly I want them with me. I want to hear their cuteness for the first time.

I like them with me at my camps (90% of the time). It's confusing when Mom = Teacher, ya know?! 

I especially enjoy them on lazy days snuggling watching TV. I'm more into coffee, than candy on those days, but who cares. 

What I am most excited for the moment, when I pick them up from an awesome day of camp (not mine) and they say - THAT WAS AWESOME!!! Because that 10% when they are NOT with me, I really want them to be doing something meaningful and worthwhile....

It also means, we all did our thang.

                                          NOT TOGETHER.

                                                         Had time to miss each other.

                                                              Then regrouped for dinner in the park, or whatever... Candy. 

 

Happy Mom = Happy Kids

When my kids are happy, I am happy.  

Who can't relate to that?

This Mother's Day, my children gave me adorable, thoughtful handmade gifts. 

  • Flower Pot "Because I love to plant flowers...." Even though i can't keep them alive for long, they remind me. 
  • Super Hero Picture "All Moms are Super Hero's, duh." My Super Power is MOMMY MAGIC!!!! 
  • Selfie of my 4 year old "We love to take selfies together in the Sun" 
  • "Breakfast of my dreams" in bed... There is sat, with my delicious eggs...and an apple, all by myself in my room. My kids were playing and laughing with my husband. How was I supposed to relax when I had major FOMO? 

I wanted to be playing and laughing, making breakfast! 

When my kids are laughing and creating memories, I don't want to miss that. 

AND, there are times when I do not want to be with my kids.

(Besides when I'm going to the bathroom, getting my hair colored, or shopping in a beautiful boutique).

Here's my NO List:

  • SCHOOL, for very long. Let their amazing teachers teach them. I will come to volunteer, eat lunch, see a talent show, and teach in their Enrichment Programs . But, the Kanov Kids do much better engaging with other adults when I am not around. 
  • ANY AMUSEMENT PARK. Yea, I can't do it. Disney is going to be a HUGE discussion. 
  • BIRTHDAY PARTIES. Unless I'm hosting, organizing and running it, or there's wine. Now that my babies are not babies, the party is for the kids more than the parents. I love catching up with my mom friends, but can't we drop off and go to a beautiful boutique? 

When I do want my little cuties around... Summer Camp!!!

Kanov Kids = SO EXCITED. Their friends are coming to my camps, they are witnessing the planning in action. We've got the Garden, organized the Yoga Mats. They can't wait. Our house is especially pumped for: 

Yoga in the Garden

Art Shows

and 

Dance Performances

 

Registration is OPEN. Get in the mix before we sell out. Questions? You can always reach me.... 

Rebecca Kanov

646-369-6077 / info@artsandmindskids.com

 

Stay in the moment? Dare me...

The days are long, but the years are short. Is that what they say? My day started at 6:30am and at 9:00pm my youngest was just asleep. LONG DAY.

After school, music, dinner, baths. I told my kids they could pick 4 books, and lay in MY bed to read, since Daddy wasn't home. My favorite place to read :) My son chose Amelia Bedelia, and inside it read “ To our sweet baby Amelia. We hope you love these Amelia Bedelia books! Enjoy your first one. Love, Mommy and Daddy 2/12/2013.

She was barely 2 months when I wrote that! I didn't remember buying the book...baby fog is for real, y'all. Now, I can't believe she's four, sassy as hell, and talking on her pretend phone/hand to her make believe mermaid friends. That was a FAST four years.

When my babies were babies I was so excited about the next... everything.

Don't get me wrong, I was so sad when I folded away the monogrammed newborn clothes. Taking down the crib? I took to the bed in depression! When my son went to Kindergarten, It was a very big deal for ME – he was fine and thrilled.

As our babies grow, and we spend 15 hours with very chatty four year olds, it is HARD to remember to stay in the moment. I have been trying to get in the bed for hours, it was all I was thinking about!

When I was getting yelled at, cleaning up breakfast, lunch, dinner and a hot chocolate disaster, I can't say I was enjoying myself. But, my son ran in the door and told me he loved me, I walk around the park very slowly. I hypothesized how the Earth was started, and if we could name our own state, and watched the most adorable ballet class. Those things were pretty awesome.

The best was just before little Amelia went to sleep she did say, “Mommy, when I'm 16 I will still let you tickle my back.” I swear I'll hold her to it. 

Enjoy some QT with your babies at Firebird Books and Toys on May 4th at 11:00am for a 60 minute class. Click here for more info!